‘Out to Life’

It’s that time of year when many of us take a time out to do our own post-mortem on the year behind, while drafting our resolutions for the year to come — those areas and elements of our life that we want to expand, enrich, shed or improve upon. And while statistics suggest that few of us actually stick with our resolutions, I think the act of drafting and writing them down is still a worthwhile endeavor — creating, in essence, our own accountability plan for living our best year yet.

Part of my own plan includes being more intentional with my writing — shifting from insight to action, and from random reflection to a more mindful way of sharing my own wisdom and learning with the world. It also includes prioritizing immediate needs and learning to say ‘no’ to some indulgences, so that I can say ‘yes’ to those people and purpose-driven projects that matter most.

With that in mind, I’m taking a break from blogging on this site — allowing myself to more fully engage in life itself and all that it holds in store. Until we meet again, I wish you a very happy new year — one filled with rich opportunities for learning and growth, and an abundance of peace, love, laughter and joy!

Leveraging Limitations

Thought for the day:

So often we seek conformity in the face of limitation; we assume change is neither feasible nor possible, and from that place, seek to fearfully ‘fit in’ to the status quo. But what if instead of accepting our limitations, we leveraged them…allowing them to creatively push us into new ways of thinking and behaving; allowing them to be the catalyst for growth and innovation?

True Leadership

True leadership is inclusive by nature, building bridges rather than walls through the gift of authentic connection.

Rooted in respect, it holds space to acknowledge difference, while remaining aligned to its core vision and values.

Born of integrity, it is courageous in thought, word and deed, willing to take risks and advocate for what is right over what is popular; for what is true over the convenient.

Purposeful in nature, it is not defined by its title, but by its ability to influence positive change.

Collaborative and humble, the best leadership serves, enables and empowers others to grow into their best selves, seeking not to glorify itself, but to acknowledge and exalt the good of others along the way.

Charisma Versus Character

Thought for the day:

When we perpetually value and elevate charisma over character, we cannot be surprised by the failings of humankind. As long as we remain a society that rewards title over influence and power over deep purpose, we will never produce the kind of courageous leaders needed to advance our growth, build bridges of peace and care for our society.

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Imperfectly United

Thought for the day:

Just as our imperfection and differences have the power to divide us, so too, can they be leveraged to unite us. When we allow ourselves to see our own good in others or others’ shortcomings in ourselves, our perspective begins to change and the chance to make a different choice emerges.

 

The More We Serve…

Thought for the day:

The more we serve others, the more the Universe opens to us.

The more we seek ways in which to use our gifts for a greater good than just our own self-promotion, the more opportunity arises to share these gifts.

In placing the needs of the whole above the self, we position ourselves as leaders; and through thoughtful leadership, we create openings for others to grow.

On Forgiveness and Thanksgiving

If gratitude is the wellspring of peace, love and joy, it begins with forgiveness and the willingness to let go of what’s past, to create new space for growth.

So often we hold on to the past, allowing our grievances and grudges to color our world and those people in it. If we’re not careful, we allow fear, bitterness and resentment to sneak into our lives, robbing us not only of our capacity for joy, but our ability to cultivate a spirit of gratitude and thankfulness for the many blessings in our lives.

The truth is that we all fail and fall short from time to time. And even when we feel above the fall of others, our very judgment of them makes us no better, and in fact, often worse.

As we move into this season of Thanksgiving, I think I shall adopt a new practice: Instead of simply counting my blessings, I will counter each one with a heady dose of forgiveness, too — weeding out and releasing those things I’ve been holding on to for far too long, and making peace with the gifts of my own imperfection.*

I’m curious…

What might you be holding on that is robbing you of your capacity to feel gratitude for the blessings in your life? In your experience, what is the relationship between forgiveness and gratitude? How has holding onto a grudge or grievance kept you stuck in your own life? What is the relationship between gratitude and our capacity for peace, love and joy?

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*Note: The Gifts of Imperfection, by Brene Brown, is an outstanding read on the power of courage, compassion and connection to enable us to find acceptance within and live fuller lives without.